Hi Dolls
I’ve been a bit quiet lately because I have so much on my mind. 2 weeks ago I made a list of things I wanted in my future husband on the advisement of a friend. She said its a good idea to make this list and pray on it asking God for what you want then expecting it. I thought it was a good idea and why not, so I sat and made my list. I specified everything from how he looked to who he was inside. It felt great to have this list but it was also depressing for a bit afterwards because I wondered if a good guy, with a good job, and the good attributes I want plus being a man who I find attractive was even possible.
Sometimes I feel like there is a silent clock over my head showing the days and time since my last relationship ended. I want to and feel ready to date but it’s hard out there and finding someone descent to go on a date with, and develop a friendship with let alone see if you are compatible as a couple is hard. There are so many douchebags, idiots, guys who want some ass that it becomes discouraging. I’m trying to gap my desire for a good relationship with the reality of what’s out there. I guess right now I am feeling discouraged. My dating options aren’t as great as I’d like them to be.
I met someone 2 weeks ago and he said he would call but didn’t; first red flag and I cut him off. I think someone’s word being kept shows their character and gives a glimpse into what you should expect down the road. 3 days ago I get a phone call while I’m at work. I had just finished and put in my earpiece so I could talk to my friend R on the phone as I drove home. This is what we do every day. Anyhow, I am in the bathroom when my earpiece goes off so I answer it. The voice on the other end was not familiar but they knew who I was. After a few questions he tells me who he is and asks me to meet up with him for drinks later. I told him no. When I got back to my phone, I checked it and he called blocked number. Douchebag. Why should I meet up with a guy who disappears after 2 weeks? Nope, sorry!
I guess I’m just venting right now. Dating is a lot harder than I expected it to be. I knew it would be hard but right now it sucks!
Talk to you all later.
It can be discouraging but there ARE good men out there. And you only need one.
I like the list idea. It’s like making a grocery list. You’re less likely to buy junk if you know what you’re looking for.
And FYI- if he blocks his number, he’s married. Just say no.
You know, it was empowering to write the list because it helped me focus and figure out what it is I want excatly in the man of my dreams.
You are right about that married thing. I didn’t even think about that. I just wrote him off and put him in the category of a man who is trying to pull a fast one. I don’t want to be a convenient option for him when his number 1 optionis not available. I believe I deserve better than that.